Barbara ter Haar, (Mental Health Professional/Mediator)
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Many of life's challenges require us to work together with empathy and strength. During these times, I can be your Collaborative Coach or Child Specialist, providing support, learning, and growth, so that you are not alone. I have advocated for children and their families for over 30 years, serving as a catalyst for change. I experience my work as a vocation and a blessing, and would be honored to work with you.
Collaborative Services
My clients for more than 20 years include children, adolescents, families, individuals, and couples. My diverse training enables me to serve my clients in various capacities: child specialist, parent coordinator, separation or divorce coach, marital therapist, as well as traditional therapist. I continuously explore the psychotherapy profession and expand my collaborative skills through practice, professional training, teaching co-parenting classes, and by training other practioners. Because of my life experience as a single parent, I deeply believe in this work.
Professional Activities
CURRENT:
Virginia Society of Clinical Social Workers
Association of Family and Conciliation Courts
Virginia Collaborative Professionals
Collaborative Professionals of Richmond
PRIOR:
Collaborative Practice Training
| Year | Course Title | Instructor | Hours |
|---|---|---|---|
| Basic/ Introductory Collaborative Law or Interdisciplinary Collaborative Team Training. | |||
| 2007 | Collaborative Law training level 1 & 2, Denver CO | DeJong, Gutterman, McBride, Shindell, Harrinton | 24 |
| 30-Hr Interest-Based Negotiation & Mediation Skills | |||
| 2009 | Mediation Training, Richmond VA | Commonwealth Mediation Group | 30 |
| Additional 15 hours Intermediate/ Advanced interest-based negotiation, communication skills, collaborative, or basic professional coach training | |||
| 2024 | Fundamentals of Parenting Coordination | AFCC Deutsch, Sullivan, Polak, Carter | 16 |
| 2024 | Confirmation Bias in high conflict cases | Bill Eddie MSW,JD | 1 |
| 2024 | Affirming and Supporting LGBTQIA+ youth and families:Basics to Advanced Family Court Concerns | Davis, Sheridan,Frieder | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Affirmative Practice with LGBT+ clients and family members | Allen Baarsky JD, MSW, PhD | 1 |
| 2011 | VaCP Annual Conference | VaCP | 4 |
| 2009 | Virginia Family Law | Kimberly Fauss | 3 |
| 2009 | Transparency in the Collaborative Process | Richmond Practice group | 1.5 |
| 2008 | The Collaborative Process: Negotiation Skills,Team Communication and Ethical Issues | Rubin, Stickley, Herrick, Hembree | 5 |
| 2008 | Collaborative Mental Health, Annual Legal Aid Conference | I was the instructor. | 2 |
| Annual 4 hours collaborative continuing education (basic, intermediate, or advanced) | |||
| 2024 | The Hats We Wear as Court Experts: Roles, Conflicts, and Helpfulness | Jeffery Wittmann PhD | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Fundamentals and updates of Coparenting | Robin Deutsch, Carter, Polak, Sullivan | 16 |
| 2024 | Confirmation Bias: Ethics, Getting it Correct in High Conflict Cases | Expert Panel | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Case Conference | CPR: Mary Hunt, Mollie Barton, Jill Gasper | - |
| 2024 | Avoiding Splitting the Team in Collaborative Practice (17th VaCP) 11-11-24 | Loretta “Lori” Gephart, M.A. | 4 |
| 2023 | Trauma-Responsive Collaborative Practice (16th VaCP) 11-13-23 | Dana Baerger, J.D., Ph.D. | 6 |
| 2023 | Trama & Divorce Practical tools for Professionals | Brandyn Caires LCPC Jen Schimbeno CDF | 1 |
| 2023 | Narcissistic Abuse In-Depth Workshop | Dr Ramani Durvasula | 6.25 |
| 2023 | Maintaining Appropriate Professional Boundaries: Exploring Ethical Obligations of Mental Health Professionals | Kathryn S.Krase, PhD, JD, MSW | 3 |
| 2023 | Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Certification Training | Katelyn Baxter-Musser LCSW. C-DBT | 20.75 |
| 2022 | Understanding Full Disclosure and Transparency | CPR: Stephanie Smith | 1 |
| 2022 | The Use of Child Specialists in the Collaborative Process | VaCP Clubhouse: I was presenter with Susan Buniva, MSW, LCSW and Lynne Einhaus, Ph.D. | 1 |
| 2022 | Responding Ethically to Post-Covid Issues | Mary Alice Fisher PhD | 2 |
| 2022 | Overview of the Financial Panel's Neutral Role in Collaborative Cases | CPR Financial Neutrals | 1 |
| 2022 | Managing Challenges in the Collaborative Divorce Process: Cognitive Bias, Mental Health, High Conflict Personality Disorders, and Addictions | Dr. Beth I. Wilner, Ph.D. | 6 |
| 2022 | Case Conference | CPR | 1 |
| 2021 | Working with LGBTQ+ Population:Best Practices | Jorden Held LCSW | 3 |
| 2021 | Through the Dark Wood: Finding the Meaning in the Second Half of Life | James Hollis PhD | 6.5 |
| 2021 | Practical Assertiveness | Kim Kristensen, Warrior Mediation | 2 |
| 2021 | Polyvagal Theory in Action: Healing the Autonomic Nervous System | Stephen Porges PhD, Deb Dana LCSW | 8 |
| 2021 | How to Bring in the Other Side When They Resist | Forrest (Woody) Mosten | 2 |
| 2021 | How Narcissists Affect Us: Relationships, Healing, and the Day to Day | Jeffery Rutstein, PsyD | 1 |
| 2021 | Advanced Issues for Family Law and Dispute Resolution Professionals: Virtual Services, Parent-Child Contact Problems, Family Violence , Voice of the Child | Robin Deutsch PhD, Matthew Sullivan PhD, Mindy Mitnick EdM MA, Debra Carter PhD | 8 |
| 2020 | Trauma-Informed Interventions in Parent-Child Contact Cases | Robin Duetsch, PhD, ABPP, Leslie Drozd, PhD & Chioma Ajoku, JD, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Things to Consider in Handling Nulti-Nationals Family Law Cases and Cases with International Aspects | CPR: Melissa Kucinski) | 1 |
| 2020 | The Psychological and Ethical Dimensions of Collaborative Practice | David A. Hoffman, Collaborative Attorney & Mediator | 6 |
| 2020 | Rhetoric and Reason in Parental Alieniation Disclosure | Joan Meier, JD, Madelyn Milchum, PhD & Robert Geffner, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Parental Alientation: False Positives and Myriad Concerns | Robert Warshak, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Parental Alienation and Misinformation Proliferation | William Bernet, MD | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Managing Healthcare Expenses in Retirement | CPR: Tyler Dove, NorthBank Partners | 1 |
| 2020 | Innovative Psychojudicial Responses to Resist-Refuse Cases | Francine Cyr, PhD, Karine Poitras, PhD & Elizabeth Godbout | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Collaborative Success Stories | CPR: Sandy Cassel | 1.0 |
| 2020 | Acting Before it's Too Late: Prudent WEarly Intervention in Resist-Refuse Cases | Lyn Greenberg, PhD, ABPP & Hon. Robert A Schnider (Ret.) | 1.5 |
| 2019 | What's IACP Got To Do With It? | Chris Farish, JD | .5 |
| 2019 | Understanding Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence | Dr Stacy Daughn, Psy.D. | 6 |
| 2019 | Transformative Power of Compassion | Dr. James Doty | 2 |
| 2019 | Sicide and Self Harm: stopping the Pain | Jack Klott, MSSA,LCSW,CSWW,Suicidologist | 6.25 |
| 2019 | Intermediate/Advanced Collaborative Boot Camp: Refining Skills and Deepening Team Cohesion | Barbara Burr,JD Lisa Herrick PhD JD | 6 |
| 2019 | Ethical Principles in the Practice of Virginia Mental Health Professionals | Allan Tepper J.D. PSY.D. | 6.25 |
| 2019 | Collaborative Boot Camp: An Experiential Day of Refining Skills and Deepening Team Cohesion (12th 11-11-19) | Barbara Burr, JD & Lisa Herrick, PhD | 5.5 |
| 2018 | VA Legislative and Case Law Update (11th VaCP) 11-12-18 | Christopher Macturk, JD | 1 |
| 2018 | UCLA Panel: What’s In It For Me? (11th VaCP) 11-12-18 | Del. David Toscano; Robert Merlin, PA; Teresa Cole, JD; and Cathleen Rea, PhD | 1.25 |
| 2018 | Trial Boot Camp for Mental Health Professionals: Deconstructing a Child Custody Case | Braunstein,Schepard,Serrette,Shienvold | 6 |
| 2018 | Trauma-Informed Reunification Therapy: Traumatized Individuals in the Family Systems | Link.Colai | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Toward a Trauma-Responsive System of Justice: Untangling Trauma from Drama. Trauma-Informed in the Trenches | Marsh,Michael | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Support Redux: Navigating the New Tax Laws and the Emotional Challenges They Create for Spouses (and Teams) (11th VaCP) 11-12-18 | Sanford Cassel, PhD; Frank Morrison, JD; Gigi Robson, CPA, CDFA; and Paul Smollar, JD | 3.25 |
| 2018 | Strategies for Success: Conflict Analysis and Effective Intervention Selection | Jones. Garton | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Protecting Ourselves & Our Clients from Identity Theft | CPR: Bryant Harrison | 1 |
| 2018 | Preventing Contact Failure and Alienation: A Multidisciplinary Program | Marcus, Joels | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Mindfulness Presentation | CPR: Susan Warner | 1 |
| 2018 | Me? Why Do I Need Help? Engaging the Favored Parent in Resolving Contact Problems | Judge,Polok,Garber | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Love Yourself First: Top 10 Financial Planning Tips | CPR: Jennifer Berdell | 1 |
| 2018 | Intervention for Separated Families: Results and Interventions for Practice | Gabrielsson,Sjolander | 1.5 |
| 2018 | From the Private Office: Parenting Coordination Pitfalls and Practical Applications | Zuckerman, Lane | 1.5 |
| 2018 | From Politics to Family: Why is Everyone so Angry? | Bob Woodward | 1 |
| 2018 | Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) evidenced based interventions for your distressed couples | Kathryn Rheem, ED.D, LMFT | 6.25 |
| 2018 | Demystifying Borderline Personality Disorder in Family Court: Yes there's Hope | Friedel, Hunter | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Case Conference | CPR: Sandy Cassel | 1 |
| 2018 | A Therapeutic Model to Reduce Anxiety for Children of Separated Families | Levy | 1.5 |
| 2018 | A Stolen Life | Jaycee Dugard | 1 |
| 2017 | Yoga & Mindfulness: Clinical Interventions for Anxiety, Depression and Trauma | Mary NurrieStearna, MSW,LCSW, C-IAYT | 6.25 |
| 2017 | Supporting Collaborative Clients Beyond the Elevator Speech | Fauss, Cassel, Robson | 6 |
| 2017 | Nuts and Bolts of Reunification Therapy | I was one of the instructors | 4 |
| 2017 | Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) | Lucia McBee. LCSW, MPH, CYI | 6.25 |
| 2017 | Mindful Parenting Conference | Alex Peavey, Kay Davidson | 6 |
| 2017 | Legal and Ethical Issues in Behavioral Health in Virginia | Patrick J. Hurd, JD | 6 |
| 2017 | Creating the Conditions For Growth as We Help Clients Navigate Separation and Divorce | Lisa Herrick, PhD, Kate Scharff, MSW | 6 |
| 2017 | Collaborative Divorce: A Model for a Win-Win Divorce | I was the instructor, with Annelise Petry | 2 |
| 2016 | Team Challenges: Working Together to Resolve Disputes | DC Academy of Collaborative Professionals | 6 |
| 2016 | Oppositional, Defiant, Disruptive Children & Adolescents: Non-Medicaton Approaches to the Most Challenging Behaviors | Scott Walls, MA,LIPC, CCMHC | 6.5 |
| 2016 | Inside the Manipulators Mind: The Insider's Guide to Ending Emotional Exploitation | Alan Godwin, PsyD | 6.5 |
| 2016 | Ethical Principles in the Practice of Virginia Mental Health Professionals | Allen Tepper J.D. PsyD | 6.25 |
| 2016 | Effective Communication with Clients: Challenges of Bearing Bad News | Marjorie C. Aaron, JD | 6 |
| 2015 | What is the Difference When Same Sex Couples Separate? 5 Critical Factors | 16th Annual IACP Forum | 1.5 |
| 2015 | VACP 8th Annual meeting and training | VaCP | 6 |
| 2015 | The Child Specialist's Value Added th Collaborative Divorce Teams | IACP Annual Forum | 1.5 |
| 2015 | Passive Aggression, Sarcasm, Cold Anger, Hostility and Aggression: Brain Based Advances in Managing Anger | W. Robert Nay, PhD | 6 |
| 2015 | One Coach Model for Collaborative Law | Brenda Roberts LCSW | 7 |
| 2015 | Forgiveness in Marriage and Parenting | Everett Worthington VCU | 2 |
| 2015 | Co-Parenting Coaching: The Next Page in the Collaborative Playbook | IACP Annual Forum | 1.5 |
| 2015 | Building a Collaborative Relationship from Client(and Team) Strengths | IACP Annual Forum | 1.5 |
| 2015 | 21st Century Power: Principles, Practices, and Positive Social Change | Dacher Keltner | 1.5 |
| 2014 | VaCP 7th Annual Meeting and Training | 3C Institute | 6 |
| 2014 | Split Divorce Through Children's Eyes | Richmond Collaborative Professionals | 1 |
| 2014 | Sex Addiction in Church and Society: Challenge and Opportunity for Clinicians and Ministry Leaders | T.C. Ryan BSEd, MDiv, DMin | 2 |
| 2014 | Legal and Ethical Issues in Behavioral Health in Virginia | Patrick Hurd JD | 6 |
| 2014 | Heal Your Heart after Grief: Help your Clients Find Peace after Break-ups, Divorce, Death, and Other Losses | David Kessler | 6 |
| 2014 | Collaborative Process | Richmond Collaborative Professionals | 1 |
| 2014 | Behavioral Finance for Collaborative Professioanls | Richmond Collaborative Professionals | 1 |
| 2014 | Aptitudes and Attitudes: Developing Skills and Values within the Collaborative Community | 3C Institiute | 6 |
| 2014 | Advanced Mindfulness: The Art of Science and Self-Compassion | Tim Desmond LMFT | 6.25 |
| 2013 | The Motivation Resolution | David Burns PhD | 1 |
| 2013 | Powerful Non-Defensive Communication for Conflict Resolution and Collaborative Law | Sharon Strand Ellison | 6 |
| 2013 | Food, Mood, and Cognition | Gina Willett PhD | 6 |
| 2013 | Effective Treatments for Anxiety and OCD | Susan Osofsky LCSW | 6 |
| 2013 | Create Healthy Relationships | Nancy Whitehurst & Barbara Lanebrown | 7.5 |
| 2012 | What do Cases Look Like? | Financial experts CPR | 1 |
| 2012 | Virginia State Collaborative Professional's Annual Conference | VACP | 3 |
| 2012 | Richmond Collaborative Professionals of Richmond retreat | Group training | 4 |
| 2012 | Property Pitfalls is divorce | Financial experts CPR | 1 |
| 2012 | Cultural/Systematic approaches- Family Systems Theory | I was instructor | 1 |
| 2012 | Collaborative Road Show | DCACP | 3 |
| 2012 | Collaborative Conversations on Support: A Model Between Fear and Fairness | Richmond Collaborative Professionals | 6 |
| 2012 | 7 Mindfulness Habits of Highly Effective Brains | LCSW CEU | 6 |
| 2011 | Why Collaborative Practice Works Neuroscience tools and techniques | Kimberly Fauss JD | 6 |
| 2011 | Behavior Healthcare Ethics | Medical Society of Virginia | 4 |
| 2010 | Parent Educators Training the Trainer | Supreme Court of Virginia | 6 |
| 2010 | Negotiating Impass in Couple's Therapy (Imago Therapy Traning) | Judith Minter, LCSW | 3 |
| 2010 | Evaluation and Treatment of Parental Alienation | Dr. Maurice Fisher, LCSW | 3 |
| 2010 | Creating the Collaborative Connection | IACP 11th Annual Educational Forum | 15 |
| 2010 | Avoid Ethics Complaints and Mal-Practice Lawsuits | Deborah Henson, LCWS, J.D. | 6 |
| 2010 | Affairs as a Catylist for Change | Pinkus-Schwartz Symposium | 6 |
| 2010 | 7th Annual Parent Educator's Symposium | Supreme Court of Virginia | 6 |
| 2009 | Therapy with Oppressed Families | Pinkus-Schwartz Symposium | 6 |
| 2009 | Physchology and Spirituality | Albert LaChance, PhD, LADC, CAS | 6 |
| 2009 | Emotional Mindfulness -- Treating Anxiety and Depression | Ron Frederick, PhD. | 6 |
| 2008 | Interdisciplinary team Collaborative Practice Intermediate Seminar | Pauline Tesler | 3.25 |
| 2007 | Play Therapy with children and pre-adolecents | Paul White, LCSW | 6 |