Phyllis Palombi, (Mental Health Professional)
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Collaborative Services
I have devoted my career as a family therapist to help families go through the process of divorce and post divorce in the least damaging and most healthy way possible. Collaborating with a team during the most painful life events can help to insure a future with less conflict.The Collaborative Team approach meets the needs of both parents and children. Conflicts around the future survival of the family financially and emotionally can be reduced significantly. Many studies show that low conflict families fare better emotionally than those with a high level of conflict. The interaction within the team of attorneys with the help of mental health professionals increase the likelihood of more healthy outcomes for the entire family. I believe in empowering parents with tools to be able to work together to evaluate and plan in the best interest of their children in the least conflictual way.
Collaborative Practice Training
| Year | Course Title | Instructor | Hours |
|---|---|---|---|
| Basic/ Introductory Collaborative Law or Interdisciplinary Collaborative Team Training. | |||
| 2009 | Collaborative Professional Trainining | Dr. Susan Gamache | 30 |
| 30-Hr Interest-Based Negotiation & Mediation Skills | |||
| 1982 | Mediation Training | Mark Loman | 30 |
| Additional 15 hours Intermediate/ Advanced interest-based negotiation, communication skills, collaborative, or basic professional coach training | |||
| 2011 | Working with High Conflict Parents | CPNV | 1 |
| 2010 | IACP Annual Meeting | various | 10 |
| 2009 | Jumpstart your Collaborative Pratice | CPTI: Fauss, Robbins, Smoller | 2 |
| 2009 | Emotional Dynamics of Collaborative Divorce | CPTI: D’Ari, Hembree & Herrick | 2 |
| Annual 4 hours collaborative continuing education (basic, intermediate, or advanced) | |||
| 2025 | Tell Me Your Story: The Role and Power of Our Clients’ Narrative | MACP Forum: Natalie Goldberg, LCSW, LICSW, LCSW-C ; Cynthia Radomsky, Esq. ; Sue Soler, LCSW-C, LICSW | 1.5 |
| 2025 | Review of the Research on Divorce and Children: Facts v. Myths | MACP Forum: Lisa Herrick, Ph.D. | 1.5 |
| 2025 | Keeping You on Top: Avoiding the Collaborative Avalanche | MACP Forum: Deborah Gilman, PhD | 3 |
| 2025 | Improv Team Building Session | MACP Forum: Dave Gau | 1 |
| 2025 | Ensuring Validity of Collaborative Settlement Agreements in a Non-Collaborative World – Practice Tips about Disclosure, Negotiation, and Drafting | Collaborative Clubhouse: Hayden O. Lee, Esq. | 1 |
| 2024 | Six Tips for Creating A Successful Working Relationship with Our Clients From the First Consult Through Settlement | Collaborative Clubhouse: Lisa Herrick, PhD | 1 |
| 2024 | Reunification Therapy: A structured Approach | CPNV: Lisa Bennett, Ph.D. | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Pre- and Post-Divorce Financial Planning: How to Ensure Clients Successfully Enter/Exit the Divorce Process | CPNV: Jordan Egert, CPA, CFE, CDFA™ and Stephanie Anderson, CFA, CFP®, CDFA® | 1.5 |
| 2024 | How to Manage the Emotional Baggage Clients Bring to the Collaborative Process | CPNV: Sarah Goding, Stephanie Smith, and Lynn Hawkins | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Divorce and the Marital Home | CPNV: Margie Hofberg | 1.5 |
| 2024 | Avoiding Splitting the Team in Collaborative Practice (17th VaCP) 11-11-24 | Loretta “Lori” Gephart, M.A. | 3.5 |
| 2023 | When a Collaborative Case Goes to Trial — And Is Appealed | CPNV: Jennifer Bradley, J.D., Steve Goldman, J.D., and David Ginsberg, J.D. | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Tuning In, Speaking Up: Being Brave in Collaborative Meetings | CPNV: Lisa Herrick | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Trauma-Responsive Collaborative Practice (16th VaCP) 11-13-23 | Dana Baerger, J.D., Ph.D. | 5.5 |
| 2023 | The Civility Project | CPNV: Great Lakes Civility Project | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Parenting Plan - Part Two The Parenting Plan from a Mental Health Perspective | CPNV: Karen S. Bonnell, MS Moderated by Patrice Garver, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Market Conditions and Volatility | CPNV: Jane Rowny, Jordan Egert, and Jamie Blum | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Embrace the Dissonance: Understanding Couples as They Come Apart | CPNV: Barbara Burr, Esq. and Lisa Herrick, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2023 | Drafting Effective Parenting Plans | CPNV: Lynn Hawkins, w/ special appearances from Theresa Mihalik, Jennifer Bradley, Michelle Bieber, and Tashina Gorgone | 1.5 |
| 2022 | “Collaborative Clients: When kumbaya is not enough.” | CPNV: Barbara Burr, Esq. | 1.5 |
| 2022 | Transitioning Clients in Collaborative Divorce | CPNV: Michael McHugh, Esq. and Teresa Cole, Esq. | 1.5 |
| 2022 | Targeted Tools to Resolve Complex Collaborative Impasses | CPNV: Carl Mitlehner, CFP®, Sue Soler, LCSW, and Jennifer Bradley, JD | 1.5 |
| 2022 | Divorcing your spouse, but staying married to Uncle Sam | CPNV: Sarah Avila, CFP®, CDFA® | 1.5 |
| 2022 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2 |
| 2022 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2 |
| 2022 | A Parent’s Mental Illness Should Not Prevent a Successful Parenting Plan | CPNV: Stephanie Smith, JD, and Patrice Garver, MHP | 1.5 |
| 2021 | VIRGINIA’S UNIFORM COLLABORATIVE LAW ACT: WHAT IT MEANS FOR YOUR COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE | CPNV: Jennifer A. Bradley, JD; Anne (Jan) W. White, JD; Karen L. Keyes, JD | 1.5 |
| 2021 | Understanding Domestic Violence and the Challenges in Getting It Right | CPNV: Viola Vaughan-Eden, PhD, MJ, LCSW | 1.5 |
| 2021 | Transform Them | CPNV: Jonathan Foust, MA, CSA | 1.5 |
| 2021 | The Flexible Potential of the Child Specialist Role | CPNV: Natalie Goldberg and Lisa Herrick | 1.5 |
| 2021 | Should Virginia Create a Legal Presumption of Shared Custody: A Current Effort is Underway, and There is Research to Support It | CPNV: Adele D’Ari, Ph.D., Lisa Herrick, Ph.D., Jennifer Bradley, J.D. | 1.5 |
| 2021 | HOLD ONTO YOUR HATS: STRATEGIES FOR STREAMLINING COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE | CPNV: Jennifer Bradley, Esq., Lynn Fetcher, Esq., Natalie Goldberg, LCSW, Jane Ochsman Rowny, CPA, CDFA | 1.5 |
| 2021 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2 |
| 2021 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2 |
| 2021 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2 |
| 2021 | BEYOND SPREAD SHEETS AND CASH FLOW – A DEEP DIVE INTO THE FINANCIAL NEUTRAL ROLES AS FACILITATOR, MEDIATOR AND ADVISOR | CPNV: Debbie May CPA, CFP, CDFA and Robin Taub, J.D. | 1.5 |
| 2021 | ADULT ADHD IN COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE: A POWERFUL, UNDER-RECOGNIZED X FACTOR | CPNV: Kate Scharff, PhD | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Yikes-My Client is recently sober-integrating substance abuse recover into a parenting plan | CPNV: Natalie Goldberg & George Young | 1.5 |
| 2020 | The Psychological and Ethical Dimensions of Collaborative Practice | David A. Hoffman, Collaborative Attorney & Mediator | 6 |
| 2020 | The New Normal | CPNV: Steve Goldman & Patrice Garver | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Prenups, the Collaborative Way | CPNV: Michael McHugh & Lynn Fletcher | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Impacts During COVID-19 | CPNV: Lisa Herrick, Natalie Goldberg, Sue Soler, Jennifer Bradley & Grant Moher | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Disclosure? Distractions? Denial? Dunno.: Addressing Full Disclosure of Ambiguous Adultery in Collaborative Divorce | CPNV: Steve Goldman & David Ginsberg | 1.5 |
| 2020 | Cash, Covid, and Collaboration: Financial Considerations for assisting your clients | CPNV: Jordan Egert & Jane Oschman Rowny | 1.5 |
| 2019 | Women & Financial Wellness: Beyond the Bottom Line | CPNV: Peter Gorman, CFP & Rod Brandon, CRPC | 1.5 |
| 2019 | UCLA Coming to Virginia Soon? | CPNV: Teresa Cole, JD & Karen Keyes, JD | 1.5 |
| 2019 | The Space Between: The Richness of our work with clients before and after and in between team meetings | CPNV: Adele D’Ari, Ed.D. & Paul Smollar, JD | 1.5 |
| 2019 | Parent Child Contact Problems and applying collaborative principles | CPNV: Patrice Garver, Ph.D. & Lynn Hawkins, Esq | 1.5 |
| 2019 | Overview of common pitfalls and best practices for drafting real estate provisions in marital settlement agreement | CPNV: Molly Craig, JD | 1.5 |
| 2019 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2.75 |
| 2019 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2.5 |
| 2019 | Divorce Options | I was the instructor | 2.5 |
| 2019 | Difficult Moments in Collaborative Cases | CPNV: Lynn Fletcher, JD & Jennifer Bradley, JD | 1.5 |
| 2019 | Collaborative Case Study | CPNV: Lisa Herrick, Ph.D., Lynn Fletcher, JD & Jennifer Bradley, JD | 1.5 |
| 2019 | ASD/Neuro-diversity in the Family: How to better understand the neuro-diverse adult client (and their neuro-diverse children) | CPNV: Jamell White, Ph.D., LCSW-C | 1.5 |
| 2018 | Working Creatively with Conflict | Debbie Beach, Patrice Garver, and Debbie Nackman | 1 |
| 2018 | Tools to Understand your Divorcing Client's Money Personality | Erika W. Schleifman, CFP, CDFA | 1 |
| 2018 | Divorce Through the Developmental Lens | Lisa Herrick, PhD and Kate Scharff | 1 |
| 2018 | Collaborative TEAM protocols: How the TEAM establishes an environment of thinking and reasoning | Christine Hissong and Mary Szpanka | 1 |
| 2018 | And They Lived Happily Ever After… | Carol Miller, Ph.D, J. Christopher Brown, Elizabeth Gray, Steve Metzler | 1 |
| 2017 | What Does Neutrality Look Like? | Herrick and Goldberg | 1 |
| 2017 | Value of Using a Finacial Professional | Brown and Morgan | 1 |
| 2017 | Stop Driving at the End of Your Hood | McHugh, Scheiifman and Garver | 1 |
| 2017 | General Marketing Principles as they Apply to CPNV | Larry Rockwell | 1 |
| 2017 | Development of a Film on Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 40 |
| 2017 | Creating the Conditions for Growth As We Help Our Clients Navigate Separation and Divorce | Lisa Herrick and Kate Scharff | 6 |
| 2017 | Business Valuations in Collaborative Divorce | Schleifman | 1 |
| 2017 | A Short Film: Where are We Now in the Collaborative Process | Rowan, Loy, and Hitlan-Masn | 1 |
| 2017 | A Short Film: Where are We Now in the Collaborative Process | I was the instructor. | 1 |
| 2016 | UCLA | Jan White | 1 |
| 2016 | The Power of Empathy in Conflict Resolution | Rowman | 1 |
| 2016 | Motivational Interviewing | Marks/Goldberg | 1 |
| 2016 | Marketing | Lee/Grant | 1 |
| 2016 | Addiction and the aprocess With Collaborative Couples | Mohr, Bonnin, Herrick | 1 |
| 2015 | Working With Families With Special Needs Children | Nuzzo | 1 |
| 2015 | What are Our Core Collaborative Principals Part II | Fletcher/Miller | 1 |
| 2015 | What Are Our Core Principles | Fletcher/Miller | 1 |
| 2015 | Motivational Interviewing | Marks | 1 |
| 2015 | Ethical and Practical Considerations for Virginia Law Practice | Hayden Lee | 1 |
| 2015 | Employee Benefits: what the employee ans Spouse need to know as they contemplate divorce | Schliefam/Lindahl | 1 |
| 2015 | Delving Into the Heart of Conflict | Burr, Smolar, Herrick | 1 |
| 2015 | Collaborative Pre Marital Agreements | McHugh | 1 |
| 2015 | Annual Virginia State Meeting VACP | various | 10 |
| 2015 | Affairs and Divorce, From the Child's Point of View | Nackman | 1 |
| 2014 | Your Professional Profile Should Communicate your Commitment to the Collaborative Process | Paul Smollar | 1 |
| 2014 | Special Needs Children | Natalie Goldberg | 1 |
| 2014 | Seven Structual Elements of Successful Marriage | Larry Gaughn | 1 |
| 2014 | Dicision Support in Negotiations | Kimberly Fauss | 1 |
| 2014 | Collaborative Practice and Health of the Family | Larry Gaughn/Mary Spanka/Ed Farber | 3 |
| 2014 | Building Your collaborative Practice | Grant Moher | 1 |
| 2014 | Brainstorming | Robin Taub/Mitlehner | 1 |
| 2013 | Process of Collaborative Divorce/American Family Therapy Academy | I was the instructor. | 2.5 |
| 2013 | Process of Collaborative Divorce/American Family Therapy Academy | I was the instructor. | 2.5 |
| 2012 | Working with Mixed Orientation Couples in Collaborative Divorce | CPNV - McHugh & Brooks | 1 |
| 2012 | The Infinity Loop: When the Process Becomes the Conflict | CPNV - D'Ari. Herrick, White & Smollar | 1 |
| 2012 | The Collaborative Roadshow | CPNV - Burr, Hirsch, Pence, Solar & Zimmerman | 1 |
| 2012 | Team Collaboration in a Difficult Case | CPNV - Miller, Fletcher & Pendzich | 1 |
| 2012 | Fees in Collaborative Cases | CPNV - May & Ravdin | 1 |
| 2012 | Expanding Collaborative to Lower Income Families | CPNV - Hirsch, Ecksein & Scott | 1 |
| 2012 | Empirical Findings Regarding Children and Divorce | CPNV - Herrick | 1 |
| 2011 | Timing in the Collaborative Process: damned if you do/damned if you don’t | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | The Ricardos–Exploring Bias Within The Collaborative Team - Are you Guilty? | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | The Military and Divorce in the Collaborative Process | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | The Challenges of Addressing Alimony in a Collaborative Case | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | Innovative Problem-Solving Model Moves Clients Through Impasse | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | How We Do It Around Here: Different Strokes for Different Folks | CPNV | 1 |
| 2011 | Forgiveness–A Piece of Transformation | CPNV | 1 |
| 2010 | Writing the Parenting Plan | Herrick/Scharf | 7 |
| 2010 | Working with Couples in Couple Therapy | American Family Therapy Academy | 8 |