I believe in the inherent worth of every individual, the sanctity of personal freedom, and responsibility for choices. I enjoy helping people struggle well and live more fully - learning, recovering and growing. I fulfill these beliefs and interests as a second career Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private coaching and psychotherapy practice in Vienna, Virginia, the District of Columbia and Maryland. In Collaborative practice, I coach clients as they work through concerns and possibilities encountered in the separation and divorce process. I listen and help you identify and voice your interests and bring your ‘best self’ to this very challenging time in your life. Using the Collaborative team model we provide structure, guidance and support so you can forge a future that you can live with. If you have children, I will guide you toward interim decisions and a co-parenting plan that addresses their needs and welfare. I look forward to answering your questions: Please call. I also highly recommend you read ‘Collaborative Divorce -- The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life’ by Pauline H. Tesler, M.A., J.D. and Peggy Thompson, PhD. Through my Psychotherapy and Counseling practice, I provide personalized, goal-directed and experiential therapies for individuals, couples, families and groups, tailoring interventions that address each client's unique needs, interests and goals. As a Parenting Consultant, I help clients explore alternatives to resolving their conflicts, including definition and clarification of issues, increased appreciation for various options, and discussion of process ‘fit’ for individual circumstances and preferences. I help parents write healthy and workable co-parenting plans: Parenting planning includes consideration of your interests and values, narrative formation to “tell the kids, family and friends”, access schedule options, writing a tailored plan to your specific family configuration and dealing with high needs (if present), and remaining available to help you through implementation. Through my Mediation services, as a sole or co-mediator, I facilitate out-of-Court resolution of differences, including parenting plans, personal and civil matters. Mediation is a ‘true neutral’ that can explore options, but not make recommendations. I continue my affiliation with Peacemaker Ministries and am certified by the Institute for Christian Conciliation, a division of Peacemaker Ministries as a Certified Christian Conciliator ™. As a Parent Coordinator (in Virginia and the District of Columbia), I help clients with high conflict co-parent dynamics, promote increased awareness and consideration of their children's needs, focus on the present and future, and facilitate and recommend co-parenting decisions. I also provide Executive Coaching for professionals, including leadership development, optimal use of personal strengths, change management, team-building, and strategic negotiations. Background: During my first career I served as a naval officer, aviator, aviation squadron commander, senior leader and educator. Before retiring as a Captain, USN after 26 years of service, I taught as a Professor of Behavioral Sciences at the Industrial College of the Armed Forces (ICAF), and enjoyed coaching and counseling military and government service senior executives and their families. After gaining my Master’s in Social Work at National Catholic School of Social Services (NCSSS), I helped those suffering serious mental illness, addiction, and their families in the inpatient psychiatric hospital and outpatient community mental health settings. I am now in private practice and help my clients realize personal freedom, joy and fulfillment in the midst of and through their changing life circumstances.
Collaborative Divorce offers a process to attain an efficient, deep and durable solution to divorce; preserve emotional health and relationships; and, for couples with children, the Collaborative Team process promotes a positive co-parenting relationship and considers your children's wellbeing throughout the process. For all couples, it offers the possibility of a more peaceful end to the marriage and fewer burdens as you both move forward to live your individual futures. I promote Collaborative divorce in the Metro-DC area as a positive alternative to litigation and a more supportive alternative to simple mediation. I have served as a member of the Boards of Directors for the Collaborative Professionals of Northern Virginia (CPNV), the Virginia Collaborative Professionals (VaCP) and the District of Columbia Academy of Collaborative Professionals (DCACP).
BS, Mathematics
U S Naval Academy,1975
MA, Human Relations/Personnel Management
Webster University,1982
MS, National Resource Strategy
National Defense University,1997
MSW, Clinical Concentration
National Catholic School of Social Services,2004
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) - Virginia
Licensed Individual Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) - Washington, DC
Licensed Certified Social Worker - Clinical (LCSW-C) - Maryland ,LCSW
CURRENT:
Collaborative Divorce Coach (retired)
Certified Christian Conciliator through ICC Peace, formerly Peacemakers
Individual, Couple, Family Counselor
Executive Coach
PRIOR:
Year | Course Title | Instructor | Hours |
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Basic/ Introductory Collaborative Law or Interdisciplinary Collaborative Team Training. | |||
2007 | Collaborative Divorce Interdisciplinary Team Training | CDTT LLC: Nancy Ross, LCSW; George Richardson, JD; Andrew Hoffman, CFP, CDFA; Vicki Carpel-Miller, MFT | 20 |
30-Hr Interest-Based Negotiation & Mediation Skills | |||
2008 | Family Mediation for Collaborative Professionals | Frank Morrison and Judy Rubin | 8 |
2008 | Basic Mediation and Collaboration | Frank Morrison, Judy Rubin and Karen Richards | 22 |
Additional 15 hours Intermediate/ Advanced interest-based negotiation, communication skills, collaborative, or basic professional coach training | |||
2008 | The Collaborative Process: Negotiation Skills, Team Communication, and Ethical Issues | Virginia CLE team at the VaCP Annual Conference, moderated by Karen Keyes, Esq. | 5 |
2008 | Intermediate seminar/Workshop in Interdisciplinary Team Collaborative Legal Practice | Pauline Tesler | 3 |
2008 | Collaborative Boot Camp: Team Training | Co-Chaired by Lisa Herrick and Jamie Lapin and Sponsored by DCACP, CDA, CDRP and CLS (now NVCP) | 8 |
Annual 4 hours collaborative continuing education (basic, intermediate, or advanced) | |||
2024 | Reunification Therapy: A structural Approach | Lisa Bennett, PhD | 1.0 |
2023 | Tell Me Your Story: The Role and Power of Our Clients' Narratives | Natalie Goldberg, LCSW, LICSW, LCSW-C and Sue Soler, LCSW-C, LICSW | 1.5 |
2023 | Supporting Adults and Children When New Partners Enter The Picture | Karen Bonnell, MS | 1.5 |
2023 | Parenting Plan - Part Two The Parenting Plan from a Mental Health Perspective | Karen S. Bonnell, MS | 1.5 |
2022 | What You Need to Know About Cross-Border Families | Melissa Kucinski, Esq | 1.5 |
2022 | Targeted Tools to Resolve Complex Collaborative Impasses | Sue Soler, LCSW, Carl Mitlehner, CFP and Jennifer Bradley, JD | 1.5 |
2022 | Solid Foundations - How to build Practices and Teams That Withstand the Storms | Debbie Beach, LCSW, Don Paris, CPA, MST, CDFA, and Steve Goldman, JD | 1.5 |
2022 | See Something Say Something - Navigating Complex Asset Matters During The Collaborative Process | Jordan Egert & Jamie Blum | 1.5 |
2022 | Divorcing Your Spouse and Staying Married to Uncle Sam | Sarah Avila CFP, CDFA | 1.5 |
2022 | Collaborative Clients: When kumbaya is not enough | Barbara Burr, Esq | 1.5 |
2022 | A Parent's Mental Illness Should Not Prevent A Successful Scheduling Plan | Stephanie Smith, JD and Patrice Garver, MHP | 1.5 |
2021 | Virginia's Uniform Collaborative Law Act: What it Means for Your Collaborative Practice | Jennifer A. Bradley, JD, Anne (Jan) W. White, JD, and Karen L. Keyes, JD | 1.5 |
2021 | Understanding Domestic Violence and the Challenges in Getting It Right | CPNV: Viola Vaughan-Eden, PhD, MJ, LCSW | 1.5 |
2021 | Transform Them (Mindfully) | Jonathan Foust | 1.5 |
2021 | The ‘Invisible Kids’ of Divorce: When Your Parents Divorce in Your Adult Years | Lisa Herrick, PhD and Sue Soler, LCSW-C, LICSW | 1.5 |
2021 | The Flexible Potential of the Child Specialist Role | CPNV: Natalie Goldberg and Lisa Herrick | 1.5 |
2021 | Streamlining Collaborative | Jennifer Bradley, JD, Lynn Fletcher, JD, Natalie Goldber, LCSW, Jane Ochsman Rowney, CDFA | 1.5 |
2021 | No Justice, No Peace | Barbara Burr, Esquire and Natalie Goldberg, LCSW, LCSW-C, LICSW | 1.5 |
2021 | Dialectical Behavior Therapy II | DCACP: Britt Rathbone, LCSW - C | 1.5 |
2021 | Dialectical Behavior Therapy | DCACP: Britt Rathbone, LCSW - C | 1.5 |
2021 | Collaborating with The Enemy | Barbra Burr, JD | 1.5 |
2021 | Advocate/Collaborate | Robin Taub, JD, Erin Goldberg, JD, Lisa Herrick, PhD | 1.5 |
2021 | ADULT ADHD IN COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE: A POWERFUL, UNDER-RECOGNIZED X FACTOR | CPNV: Kate Scharff, PhD | 1.5 |
2020 | The New Normal | CPNV: Steven Goldman, JD & Patrice Garver, PhD | 1.5 |
2020 | DBT for Collaborative Cases | Britt Rathbone, LCSW-C | 3.0 |
2020 | COVID-19 Impacts & Opportunities | CPNV: Lisa Herrick, LCSW, Sue Soler, LCSW-C, Natalie Goldberg, LCSW-C, Sarah Zimmerman, JD, Erin Golding, JD | 1.5 |
2019 | Why are we so defensive? It’s a shame. | Carol Miller Ph. D., Rebecca Landau-Millin Psy.D. and Barbara Burr JD | 1.5 |
2019 | What We Don’t Talk About …..Enough | Sue Soler LCSW, Natalie Goldberg, LCSW-C and Sarah Zimmerman, JD | 1.5 |
2019 | The Terrible Territory of “Resist-Refuse” Dynamics in Collaborative: When Children Push Away From Seeing A Parent | Lisa Herrick Ph.D., Natalie Goldberg, L.C.S.W., and Lynn Hawkins, J.D. | 1.5 |
2019 | The Space Between: The Richness of Our Work With Clients Before and After and In Between Team Meetings | Adele D’Ari, Paul Smoller | 1.5 |
2019 | Power, Privilege and Entitlement | Barbara Burr, JD and Brandes Ash, JD | 1.5 |
2019 | Parent Child Contact Problems and applying collaborative principles | Patrice Garver and Lynn Hawkins | 1.5 |
2019 | Grief: The Hidden (and Obvious) Driver of So Much That Happens During Our Cases | Adele D’Ari Ed. D., Erin Golding, JD and Lisa Herrick Ph.D. | 1.5 |
2019 | Difficult Moments in Collaborative Cases | Lynn Fletcher, Jennifer Bradley | 1 |
2019 | ASD/Nero-Diversity in The Family: How to Better Understand The Neuro-Diverse Adult Client | Jamell White, PhD, LCSW-C | 1.5 |
2019 | A Collaborative Case Study | Jennifer Bradley, Lynn Fletcher, and Lisa Herrick. | 1.5 |
2018 | Working Collaboratively Together | Debbie Beach, Patrice Garver, Deborah Nackman | 1 |
2018 | Tools to Understand Our Clients' Money Personality | Erika Schleifman | 1 |
2018 | Gate Keeping: Facilitative, Protective, Restrictive | Adele D'Ari, Lisa Herrick | 1 |
2018 | Collaborative Team Protocols: How A Team Establishes An Environment of Thinking and Reasoning | Christine Hissong, Mary Spanka | 1 |
2018 | Brainwriting | Barbara Burr, Theresa Mihalik | 1 |
2018 | Avoiding Financial Mistakes | Adam Morgan | 1 |
2018 | And They Lived Happily Ever After | Carol Miller, J.Chris Brown, Elizabeth Gray | 1 |
2017 | What About Me? Listening to The Voice of The Child | Deb Nackman & Carol Miller | 1.5 |
2017 | Collaborative Protocols and Navigating The Complexities of Divorce | Victoria Smith | 5 |
2017 | Inside The World of A Solo Coach | Adele D'Ari & Lynn Fletcher | 1.5 |
2016 | UCLA | Jan White | 1.5 |
2016 | The Power of a Neutral | DCACP | 1 |
2016 | The Power of Empathy in Conflict Resolution | Charlie Rowan, PC | 1 |
2016 | The Collaborative Toolbox | DCACP | 1 |
2016 | The Challenge of Teams | Yuval Berger, MSW & Nancy Cameron, LLB | 6 |
2016 | Rethinking Interests, Needs and Goals | DCACP | 1 |
2016 | Providing and Receiving Feedback | Karen Freed, Sue Soler, Andrea Hirsch, Jan White | 1.5 |
2016 | Motivational Interviewing | Marks/Goldberg | 1.5 |
2016 | Ethical Issues in Collaborative Practice | Jan White | 1.5 |
2016 | Discernment Counseling | Rona HItlin-Mason | 1.5 |
2016 | Coaching for BIFF Responses to Hostile or Inaccurate Communications | Debra Nackmand & Carol Miller | 1 |
2016 | Buldiing The Microcontainer from The Ground Up | Kate Scharff, LICSW | 1 |
2015 | Rhythm of Peace in Arriage and Family | KC Dierenfield & Dennis Reiter | 2 |
2015 | Interpersonal Neurobiology: Vocational Creativity | Curt Thompson, MD | 4.5 |
2015 | Interpersonal Neurobiology: Marriage and Human Systems | Curt Thompson, MD | 9 |
2015 | Dealing with Difficult Parties | Daniel Teater & Bryce Thomas | 2 |
2015 | Child Maltreatment Reporting | Gisele Ferretto, LCSW-C | 3 |
2014 | Trauma and the Unspoken Voice of the Body | Peter Levine, PhD | 2 |
2014 | The Power of Full Engagement | Diana Fosha, PhD | 1 |
2014 | The Marital Truth Trifecta | Craig Conrad | 2 |
2014 | Pitfalls in Commonly Used ‘Best Practices’ in ADR | Sharon Ellison | 2 |
2014 | Moving Beyond Agenda When Asking Questions | Sharon Ellison | 2 |
2014 | Harnessing the Power of Emotion | Susan Johnson, EdD and Marlene Best, PhD | 4 |
2014 | Forgiving the Unrepentant: Justice, Mercy and Proximity | Doug Schmidt | 2 |
2014 | Emotional Competence and Self Care | Leonard Tamura, PhD | 3 |
2014 | Decision Support in Negotiations: The Power of Team Alignment | Kimberly J. Fauss | 1 |
2014 | Brain Science and Psychotherapy | Rick Hanson, PhD | 1 |
2013 | Feeling State Addiction (EMDR) Protocol | Robert Miller, PhD | 13 |
2013 | Collaborative Ethics | Tri-State Collaborative Task Force | 3 |
2012 | Updates on Collaborative Protocols | Paul Smollar, Esq, Jan White, Esq and Susan Butler, Esq | 1.5 |
2012 | Trauma Epigenetics, Identification, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Treatment Protocols | Various - EMDRIA Regional Conference | 22 |
2012 | The Infinity Loop: When the Process becomes the Conflict | Adele D'Ari, EDD, Lisa Herrick, PhD, Jan White, Esq., and Paul Smollar, Esq | 1.5 |
2012 | The Importance of Examining Our Own Assumptions, Beliefs, Biases and Values | Andreah Hirsch, Esq and Marla Zipin, PhD | 1.5 |
2012 | The Collaborative Practice Roadshow | CDRP | 3 |
2012 | Reconciling Marital Conflict | Peacemaker Ministries | 22 |
2012 | Intractable Issues in Child Custody Disputes | Mindy Mitnick - AFCC Conference | 12 |
2012 | Empirical Findings Regarding Children and Divorce | Lisa Herrick, PhD | 1.5 |
2012 | Domestic Violence | DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence | 1.5 |
2012 | DC Collaborative Law Act (UCLA) | Mary Pence, Esq, Paul Smollar, Esq, Jan White, Esq and Barbara Burr, Esq | 1.5 |
2011 | The Military and Divorce | I was instructor with Teresa Cole and Cynthia Zagorski, CPA | 1.5 |
2011 | The Continuum of Parental Alignment, Estrangement and Alienation in Collaborative Cases | Bill Zuckerman, PhD | 1.5 |
2011 | Navigating Emotional Currents of Collaborative Divorce | Lisa Herrick, PhD, and Kate Scharff, LCSW-C | 3 |
2011 | Fees in Collaborative Cases | Linda Ravdin, Esq | 1.5 |
2011 | Certification Training | Peacemaker Ministries | 24 |
2010 | Understanding and Managing High Conflict People | William A. Eddy, LCSW, Esq. | 6 |
2010 | Conflict Coaching and Mediation Training | Peacemaker Ministries | 24 |
2010 | Advanced Parenting Plan Formulation | Lisa Herrick, PhD and Kate Scharff, LCSW-C, LICSW | 6 |
2009 | Somatic Imagery and Ego State Psychotherapy | Mark Lawrence, MD | 9 |
2009 | Parenting Coordination: Helping High Conflict Parents Resolve Disputes | AFCC: Joan Kelly, PhD | 13 |
2009 | Non-Defensive Communication | Sharon Ellison | 6.5 |
2009 | Collaborative Models - Which Model Is Right For Your Case | Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson | 6 |
2009 | Collaborative Boot Camp: Team Training | Co-Chaired by Lisa Herrick and Barb Burr Sponsored by DCACP | 7 |
2009 | Advanced Issues in Child Custody: The Child's Perspective | AFCC: Mindy Mitnick, EdM, MA | 13 |
2007 | Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Training | Mary Froning, PhD | 48 |
2006 | Psychoanalytic Object Relations and Experiential Training Seminar: Cognitive and experiential psychotherapy for individuals, couples and groups, specializing in psychosomatic issues and family systems. | Rudolph Bauer, PhD | 48 |
2004 | Treating Acute Stress Disorder (ASD) and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) | Anxiety Disorders Association of America | 4 |
2003 | Dialectic Behavior Therapy | Behavioral Tech, LCC | 12 |