For the last twenty five years, I have been working with clients who are struggling with marriage, separation and divorce. I have helped parents who are suffering high conflict in their divorce, have worked with children and teens whose parents are in the midst of separating, and I have provided services as a Collaborative Coach and/or Child Specialist during the last nine years. I have worked on more than 180 Collaborative cases at this point, with the vast majority coming to successful resolution. One of the things that is most important to me as a divorce professional is to provide ongoing and consistent support to all of my clients. To me, support means both providing guidance through a very confusing time, offering input about emotional challenges for clients and their children, and offering myself as a sounding board for clients who often need to talk through ideas, options, and challenging decisions. I am equally dedicated to helping both fathers and mothers in their efforts to remain fully engaged parents and in their efforts to learn how to parent effectively even though they are getting divorced. I believe parents CAN protect children from many negative impacts of divorce if they are informed, reassured, and strengthened. I am a founding member of the Collaborative Professionals Training Institute (CPTI), a tri-state faculty of professionals who offer basic and advanced trainings throughout the country. In September, 2010, I co-founded the Collaborative Practice Center of Greater Washington, a suite of offices where attorneys, mental health professionals and financial experts share space and work side by side on Collaborative ventures. Finally, I have co-authored two books with Kate Scharff, one titled Navigating Emotional Currents in Collaborative Divorce; A Guide to Enlightened Team Practice. That book was published in October 2010. A second book, Mastering Crucial Moments in Separation and Divorce; A Multidisciplinary Guide to Excellence in Practice and Outcome was published in October, 2016, also by the American Bar Association Press.
I have been working with attorneys, financial neutrals, and other mental health experts throughout the tri-state area (VA, MD and DC) over the last six years. I have participated in over 80 cases and have served both as a Divorce Coach and a Child Specialist. I have worked both as a sole Mental Health Neutral and as one of two Divorce Coaches. During the last two years, I have provided trainings to professionals who want to learn the Collaborative approach, and have found the spread of Collaborative throughout America to be thrilling. I believe the Collaborative model of resolving disputes is a creative, inspiring, supportive, and effective way to help people move through the challenging process of divorce for a wide variety of clients and situations. I also find that Collaborative teams are uniquely able to listen to the voices of the children in each family, and to give those children a chance to be heard. Children I have worked with during the very difficult time of their parents' divorce have expressed relief that they are able to talk about the experiences they are having with people who can help their parents help them.
CURRENT:
Board Member --DCACP - Chair of Education Committee
PRIOR:
Past President -- DCACP (DC practice group)
Co-Chair -- CPNV - (Northern VA practice group)
Faculty Trainer --Collaborative Professionals Training Institute - CPTI
Co-Founder -- Collaborative Practice Center of Greater Washington
Year | Course Title | Instructor | Hours |
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Basic/ Introductory Collaborative Law or Interdisciplinary Collaborative Team Training. | |||
2007 | Basic Interdisciplinary Training | Lauren Alexander, Nancy Ross et. al. | 18 |
30-Hr Interest-Based Negotiation & Mediation Skills | |||
2008 | 30 Hour Mediation Training with Collaborative Skills Focus | Judy Rubin, Frank Morrison | 30 |
Additional 15 hours Intermediate/ Advanced interest-based negotiation, communication skills, collaborative, or basic professional coach training | |||
2008 | IACP FORUM Worshop on Train the Trainers | Susan Gamache, Amy Wolf, Malcolm McCallum | 6 |
2007 | Intermediate Collaborative Law Training | Stu Webb | 6 |
2007 | Conflict Resolution Training | I was the instructor. | 6 |
Annual 4 hours collaborative continuing education (basic, intermediate, or advanced) | |||
2023 | Trauma-Responsive Collaborative Practice (16th VaCP) 11-13-23 | Dana Baerger, J.D., Ph.D. | 6 |
2022 | Targeted Tools to Resolve Complex Collaborative Impasses | CPNV: Carl Mitlehner, CFP®, Sue Soler, LCSW, and Jennifer Bradley, JD | 1.5 |
2022 | Solid Foundations - How to build Practices and Teams That Withstand the Storms | CPNV: Debbie Beach, LCSW, Steve Goldman, JD & Don Paris, CPA, MST, CDFA | 1.5 |
2022 | DCACP: The Long and Winding Farewell: How Divorce Changes What We Think We Know About Grief | Hope Edelman | 4.5 |
2022 | Collaborative Clients: When kumbaya is not enough. | CPNV: Barbara Burr, Esq. | 1.5 |
2021 | Understanding Domestic Violence and the Challenges in Getting It Right | CPNV: Viola Vaughan-Eden, PhD, MJ, LCSW | 1.5 |
2021 | Transform Them | CPNV: Jonathan Foust, MA, CSA | 1.5 |
2021 | The Flexible Potential of the Child Specialist Role | CPNV: Natalie Goldberg and Lisa Herrick | 1.5 |
2021 | Should Virginia Create a Legal Presumption of Shared Custody: A Current Effort is Underway, and There is Research to Support It | CPNV: Adele D’Ari, Ph.D., Lisa Herrick, Ph.D., Jennifer Bradley, J.D. | 1.5 |
2021 | NO JUSTICE, NO PEACE | DCACP: Barbara Burr, Esq.; Natalie Goldberg, LCSW | 1.5 |
2021 | HOLD ONTO YOUR HATS: STRATEGIES FOR STREAMLINING COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE | CPNV: Jennifer Bradley, Esq., Lynn Fetcher, Esq., Natalie Goldberg, LCSW, Jane Ochsman Rowny, CPA, CDFA | 1.5 |
2021 | Changes, Practical Applications and Issues now that the UCLA Statute has been Enacted (14th VaCP) s (14th VaCP) | Teresa Cole, JD, Karen Keyes, JD & Cheryl Smith, JD | 1 |
2021 | BEYOND SPREAD SHEETS AND CASH FLOW – A DEEP DIVE INTO THE FINANCIAL NEUTRAL ROLES AS FACILITATOR, MEDIATOR AND ADVISOR | CPNV: Debbie May CPA, CFP, CDFA and Robin Taub, J.D. | 1.5 |
2021 | ADULT ADHD IN COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE: A POWERFUL, UNDER-RECOGNIZED X FACTOR | CPNV: Kate Scharff, PhD | 1.5 |
2021 | A Deeper Dive into the Role of the Child Specialist (14th VaCP) | I was presenter with Natalie Goldberg, LCSW | 2.75 |
2020 | Yikes-My Client is recently sober-integrating substance abuse recover into a parenting plan | CPNV: Natalie Goldberg & George Young | 1.5 |
2020 | The New Normal | CPNV: Steve Goldman & Patrice Garver | 1.5 |
2020 | Prenups, the Collaborative Way | CPNV: Michael McHugh & Lynn Fletcher | 1.5 |
2020 | Impacts During COVID-19 | CPNV: Lisa Herrick, Natalie Goldberg, Sue Soler, Jennifer Bradley & Grant Moher | 1.5 |
2020 | Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: Adapting Techniques for Collaborative Practice | CPNV: Britt Rathbone, LCSW-C | 3 |
2020 | Cash, Covid, and Collaboration: Financial Considerations for assisting your clients | CPNV: Jordan Egert & Jane Oschman Rowny | 1.5 |
2019 | What’s IACP Got To Do With It? | Chris Farish | .05 |
2019 | VaCP Annual Conference: Collaborative Boot Camp | I was instructor with Barbara Burr | 5.5 |
2019 | Mediation & Interest Based Negotiation Skills Training | I was instructor with Barbara Burr, Esq. | 40 |
2019 | Creating Child-Focused Parenting Plans | I was instructor with Barbara Burr, Esq. & Adele D’Ari, EdD | 6 |
2017 | Introductory Collaborative Training | I was the instructor. | 14 |
2017 | Delving into Impasse | I was the instructor. | 6 |
2017 | Creating the Conditions for Growth As We Help Our Clients Navigate Separation and Divorce | I was instructor with Kate Scharff | 6 |
2017 | Collaborative Protocols and Navigating the Complexity of Divorce | Victoria Smith | 5 |
2016 | Providing and Receiving Feedback | Karen Freed, Sue Soler, Andrea Hirsch, Jan White | 1.5 |
2016 | Mastering Crucial Moments in Separation and Divorce | I was the instructor. | 5 |
2016 | It Starts Before It Begins: Creating a Helping Relationship with Our Clients | I was the instructor. | 3 |
2015 | The Challenge of Teams | Nancy Cameron and Yuval Berger | 5 |
2015 | Creating the Conditions for Change | I was the instructor. | 5 |
2014 | Three Day Basic Training in Collaborative Team Practice | I was the instructor. | 18 |
2014 | The Impact of Divorce on Children: What the Research Says | I was the instructor. | 2 |
2014 | Navigating Emotional Currents in Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 12 |
2014 | Finding Money Harmony | Olivia Mellon | 6 |
2013 | Three Day Collaborative Divorce Team Training | I was instructor. | 21 |
2013 | Tending and Moving: The Balancing Act | I was the instructor. | 2 |
2013 | In The Moment: Anguish, Anxiety and Aggression | I was the instructor. | 3 |
2013 | Association of Family and Conciliation Courts Annual Conference | Ed Farber, PhD; Marsha Kline Pruett | 6 |
2013 | 30 Hour Mediation and Interest Based Negotiation Skills Training | I was instructor. | 30 |
2012 | Updates in Collaborative Protocols | Paul Smollar, Jan White and Susan Butler | 1.5 |
2012 | Timeless Attachments:Shared Residential Parenting Research | Fabricius, Emery, Neilson, Kruk | 2 |
2012 | Sense and Sensibility: Critical Interplay of Coaches and Attorneys | V. Carpel Miller, Ellie Izzo, David Horowitz | 5 |
2012 | Roadblocks to Financial Resolutions In Collaborative Cases | Debora May, Gigi Robson, Lonnie Broussard | 1 |
2012 | Navigating Emotional Currents of Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 6 |
2012 | Intractible Issues in Custody Cases | Mindy Mitnik, Ed. D. | 12 |
2012 | Infants, Overnights and Attachment | Emery, George, McIntosh | 2 |
2012 | In The Moment: Anguish, Anxiety and Aggression | I was the instructor. | 5 |
2012 | Elephants in the Room During Spousal Support Discussions in Collaborative Cases | I was the instructor. | 1.5 |
2012 | Advanced Skills in Interest-Based Negotiation | I was the instructor. | 6 |
2012 | 3 Day Basic Multi-Disciplinary Collaborative Training | I was the instructor. | 21 |
2011 | Preventing Real Property Pitfalls in Divorce | Kelly Lise Murray | 2 |
2011 | Navigating Emotional Currents of Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 3 |
2011 | 3 Day Basic Team Training in Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 18 |
2010 | Creating a Deep and Durable Collaborative Parenting Plan | I was the instructor. | 6 |
2010 | 30 Hour Interest Based Negotiation Skills Training | I was the instructor. | 30 |
2010 | 3 Day Basic Team Training in Collaborative Divorce | I was the instructor. | 18 |
2009 | Three Day Multidisciplinary Collaborative Team Training | I was the instructor. | 21 |
2009 | Seminar on The Role of Coaches | Pauline Tessler and Peggy Thompson | 6 |
2009 | Navigating Emotional Landmines in Collaborative Practice | I was the instructor. | 3 |
2009 | IACP Forum Institute on Developing Your Practice | Kathleen Connor | 6 |
2009 | Collaborative Process: Negotiation Skills, Communication and Ethical Issues | I was the instructor. | 12 |
2009 | 30 Hour Interest Based Negotiation Skills Training | I was the instructor. | 30 |
2006 | Basic Collaborative Law Training | Sue Brunsting | 12 |